“Women on dating sites strains that by 38 I have not yet been married”
I had novels, but I was not married: frequent business trips do not contribute to this. A year ago I realized that I want a family, a child. Changed the work. I learned with surprise on the dating site that at 38 there list was no experience of marriage – abnormally. How to convince women that I was just ripe finally for a relationship?
Your letter, Leo, about relationships with women on the dating site is full of socio-cultural stereotypes, leaving the history of our country. Before the revolution, all the rights – from civil to moral – was endowed with an exceptionally married man, that is, marriage was an initiation that gives the status of an adult and a suitable for life in society. The unmarried guy was completely subordinate to his mother and a “full -fledged member of society” was not considered.
Echoes of such a world order were heard in the Soviet era, when only married ones appointed marked posts to important status posts. However, the world has changed a lot since then, today there is no such direct connection between the concepts of “adult” and “married”. I would talk about the connection “adult – an responsible”.
I got the impression of you as a fairly conscious, adult: you have changed traveling to a sad, so that there is an opportunity to engage in family. If you understand that you are ready to marry, then you should look for yourself the partner who will deal with you, and not with different prejudices.
Is a suitable place for a search – dating site? Women come there with different purposes. Someone wants to marry, someone-to make an unreasonable romance. And someone is to amuse pride. I would recommend that you not write down all women in one cohort and not assume that everyone who wants to get married gives such a feedback – “I have never been married – you are abnormal”, but to look for such a person who coincides with you and in desires.